Of Nagging Women And Angry Men

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By Biblicism Institute

The actress/scriptwriter Nia Vardalos in the movie My Big Fat Greek Wedding wrote the following line: “The man may be the head of the household, but the woman is the neck, and she can turn the head whichever way she pleases.”

It may be a funny one-liner, but it’s a dangerous one.

Why?

Entertainment and media have a great influence on many people. That one-liner has wormed its way into our society’s consciousness using a comedic wrapper to make it palatable, as well as reinforcing a notion that many women are already inclined to develop.

Some preachers even use it to make their audience laugh, but in truth it’s no laughing matter.

MAN IS THE HEAD. PERIOD.

“But I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of a woman, and God is the head of Christ.” 1 Corinthians 11:3

Adam and Eve 2The head of woman is man, not Jesus. The head of an unmarried woman is her father, or the elder brother if dad is deceased. The head of a married woman is her husband, or whomever the husband puts in charge after his passing, usually the elder son who has the right of the firstborn.

“He shall acknowledge… the firstborn (male), by giving him a double portion of all that he hath: for he is the beginning of his strength; the right of the firstborn is his.” Deuteronomy 21:17

From the very beginning, in the Garden of Eden, the woman managed to usurp the man’s authoritative role, and the result has been the catastrophic state of sin we currently find ourselves in.

The Serpent knew what he was doing when he approached the woman.

“And he said to the woman, ‘Indeed, has God said, ‘You shall not eat from any tree of the garden’?’ ‘ ” Genesis 3:1

The most cunning of all creatures, he discerned that woman was the weaker vessel and therefore not built to withstand his attacks, and that man for all his bravado could not long endure a woman’s pleading eyes. He was certain that man’s ingrained chivalry would get the best of him.

He was right.

Eve fell and then induced Adam to fall. Quite the bull’s-eye on both counts for the Serpent! In other words, he caused Eve to become the neck that turned Adam’s head, and voilà!

Since then women everywhere, way before Nia Vardalos penned that “funny one-liner,” have been trying to “neck around” their husbands or have actually been doing precisely that.

The consequences of such a disposition are disastrous.

Women who embrace said frame of mind end up being these nagging and manipulative creatures that drive their husbands crazy or angry.

Many of these men bottle up their anger until one day they explode and divorce their wives. Some morph into these feeble, castrated individuals who are trapped and cannot move forward, while others are in a permanent state of resentment as they continually butt heads with their wives.

When God says that man is the head, He means it.

“Wives, respect and obey your husbands…” 1 Peter 2: 1

“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” Ephesians 5: 22

DESTRUCTIVE FEMINISM

Feminism has conditioned most women, even many Christian ones, to rebuff the above-mentioned biblical laws. To masquerade their unbecoming behavior, these women usually use the following nonsensical statements about their husbands – with our rebuttal.

  • But he’s doing the wrong thing. Rebuttal: Then advise him.
  • But he doesn’t listen. Rebuttal: Then the onus is on him, not on you.
  • But he’s leading our family to disaster. Rebuttal: Then why did you marry him?
  • But I thought I could change him. Rebuttal: Did you, now? Is the bride of Christ the one who changes to accommodate Him, or is it the other way around?
  • But he’s gonna fail if I don’t take over. Rebuttal: Then let him fail. There’s nothing wrong with failure. Failure sobers a man up and gives him wisdom. Moses failed to convince Pharaoh over and over until his persuasive argument won the day.
  • But he’s gonna bring shame to me and my family. Rebuttal: Ah-ha! It’s your ego, then. Shade of Eve.
  • But he can’t make up his mind. Rebuttal: Then wait until he can.
  • But he’s lazy. Rebuttal: Then why did you marry him?
  • But I didn’t know. Rebuttal: Did you follow The Biblical Marriage Blueprint?
  • But I thought I could change him. Rebuttal: Aren’t we going in circle here?

A woman can help her husband, advise him, encourage him, build him up when he’s down, etc.; but, in the end, final decisions are up to him. God is the one who put him in charge, and therefore he’ll have to answer to Him.

When a woman takes upon herself the man’s responsibilities, she assumes duties that were not assigned to her, and sooner or later the result will be a frustrated wife who’ll end up disrespecting, even despising her husband.

Job’s wife is a great example of how a woman can step out of her supportive role and be putty in the devil’s hand. She could not see God’s purpose in Job’s trials, so instead of comforting and showing respect to her husband she cursed him (and God) instead.

“Why don’t you curse God and die?” Job 2:9

Likewise, most women prefer to nag and nag until they get what they want, not unlike female characters in many movies who insolently mouth off at their husbands or at their fathers. Such a devastating sinful trait will drive a family to ruin, just like Eve drove her family out of the Garden.

“It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.” Proverbs 21:9

“It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman.” Proverbs 21:19

“A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike; to restrain her is to restrain the wind or to grasp oil in one’s right hand.” Proverbs 27: 15-16

Women like these grind down a man’s self-esteem. They are the reason many run away from their wives and into the arms of those who indulge and respect their God-appointed position.

“Your adornment must not be merely external– braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands.” 1 Peter 3: 3-5

MEN OF GOD

Now, to you guys. Be men, godly men! Not sissies, nor brutes.

Husbands must work hard and provide for their families in every aspect: financial, spiritual, emotional, in knowledge, in wisdom, in decision-making, etc. In other words, they must become real men, leaders of their homes.

“But if someone doesn’t provide for their own family…They are worse than those who have no faith.” 1 Timothy 5:8

“Husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” Ephesians 5:28

“Fathers, do not anger your children, but rear them in the discipline and in the teaching of Our Lord.” Ephesians 6: 4

Some husbands actually cause their wives to become the necks that turn their heads, and then they wax all hot and bothered, even angry.

There’s nothing uglier than a man who’s not a man, meaning a man who does not fulfill his responsibilities. If that’s you, then it’s about time you took back your role as head of your family and applied God’s principles to turn your situation around.

But, in so doing, remember to exercise loving firmness and patient understanding, especially if your wife has already settled in the neck-turning-the-head role.

“Husbands, dwell with your wives with understanding, giving honor unto the wife as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers be not hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7

CONCLUSION

Adam and EveWhat if Adam had put his foot down and told Eve to behave?

What if he had said, “Now listen, darling. God said it’s a no-no to eat of the forbidden fruit. Now throw it away because I’ll have none of it. Quickly go and ask God to forgive you!”

Do you think we’d all be in different circumstances right now?

In short, guys, be biblical men!

And you, ladies, be biblical women!

Your lives will be better for it.

“But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.” James 1:22

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19 thoughts on “Of Nagging Women And Angry Men”

  1. There’s nothing uglier than a man who’s not a man, meaning a man who does not fulfill his responsibilities. If that’s you, then it’s about time you took back your role as head of your family and applied God’s principles to turn your situation around. But in so doing remember to exercise loving firmness and patient understanding, especially if your wife has already settled in the neck-turning-the-head role.

    In this age of no fault divorce and the VAWA Act that lets a woman toss her husband out of his own home with just a phone call….lots of luck trying to do that buddy. The feminist rot has now run so deep into the “church” I have heard the most Godly women express support for feminism.

    Meanwhile all you hear from the pulpit is condemnation and shaming of…..wait for it…..man.

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  2. Thank you for bringing balance to a sensitive subject, one where man is always the guilty party and is always maligned.

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  5. Excellent writing!!!

    It’s interesting that you mentioned these awful female characters in Hollywood movies. I started noticing that myself. There’s always a nagging woman or a nagging girl mouthing off at her husband or her parents. That is so true.

    Women need to read and apply this article in their lives and not follow what they see in movies and on TV.

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  8. A great topic that many shy away from since apparently man is ALWAYS guilty. Thanks for the balance.

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  10. Great article…We men sometimes have ourselves to blame….We claim that our wives should submit themselves to us but we don”t submit ourselves to God.. We pick and choose from the Bible like the politicians do.

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    • Men don’t claim that their wives should submit, God is the one who demands it. The way you phrase that is typical church-speak influenced by feminism. Whether men submit to God or not, they’ll have to answer to God. Women should submit to their husbands and obey God’s command to do so because God said so, not because of their husbands’ spiritual conditions.

      “How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife? Regardless, each one should lead the life that the Lord has assigned him and to which God has called him.” 1 Corinthians 7:16-17

      That’s why it is of utmost importance to follow The Biblical Marriage Blueprint in order to avoid marrying the wrong individual.

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  11. We argued a lot for a long time, so I left, didn’t divorce stayed in touch weekly with her and my son via skype, what a technological marvel that thing is. Came to Italy to teach English and experience a country that still practices the religion. Stores here actually close on Sundays and many people still go to church and practice the faith. It helped to see this unlike back in NY where just about anything goes. She’s coming to see me here for vacation then we leave together to go back home. The time away helped both me and her. I hope we can stop argueing. Need to love her better and accept her for who she is. She is kind, sweet and caring. Like the biblical woman you described. We are not compatible, we come from different countries, but we are christian and won’t divorce. Any advice?

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    • First, kudos for not wanting to divorce. Second, from what you described, it seems you’re on the right track. We’d simply add: make the Lord part of rebuilding your family – the old adage works, “a family that prays together, stays together.” Besides, incompatibility cannot stand in the face of what you two have in common: GOD and a cherished son, a gift from heaven. Make it work. All the best.

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      • Thank you sir your kind words are most appreciated. Marriage is difficult in this day and age. It seems modern times were meant to destroy it. If you could provide a nice bible verse to inspire it would be most appreciated. God bless.

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        • Pleasure is ours. Verses:

          “Husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” Ephesians 5:28

          “As the assembly submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” Ephesians 5:24

          Marriage becomes easier when you understand its purpose and the purpose of sex.

          All the best.

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  14. Since Eve was not subjected to Adam until God pronounced judgment upon her, and if reconciliation restored us to that original communion with our Father (we are all ONE family with equal access to our Father), and the bible says, ‘There is neither Judahite nor Greek, MALE nor FEMALE, slave nor free’ (Galatians 3:28), then why is the woman still subjected to her husband if she is now married to Christ and no distinction exists to God?

    Corinth was in Greece and they considered women with so little value they could kill them if they were displeased with them, thus Paul’s reference ‘as the LAW states.’

    The old covenant made distinctions, the new does not. Freedom is freedom for ALL God’s children, not for some. Religion has lied in order to maintain their ‘power, dominion and authority’ over people who cannot discern their right hand from their left.

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    • The No-Distinction clause in the New Covenant concerns SALVATION. Jesus came to be the Savior of the whole world: man, woman, Hebrew, Gentile or non-Hebrew, etc. That’s the reconciliation.

      “We have put our hope in the living God, who is the Savior of all people, and especially of those who believe.” 1 Timothy 4:10

      However, the New Covenant does make a distinction when it comes to spiritual structural authority.

      “But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.” 1 Corinthians 11:3

      The head of woman is man, not Jesus and not God. Even before the fall, woman was created for man and not the other way around. She was “of man,” or woman, fashioned to be his helper.

      “The LORD God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.'” Genesis 2:18

      The freedom for all you mentioned is the feminism charade you are trying to morph into God’s law, since you do not wish to follow His authority paradigm. Hence you are the one who’s now equivocating and twisting God’s word, even though you’re right about religion lying concerning many other aspects of faith in order to maintain power and control.

      Further, God’s structural authority is not to be construed as making a woman inferior or of no value to a man. It is to protect her from that very weakness which caused the first woman, Eve, to fall in the first place.

      “Husbands, dwell with your wives with understanding, giving honor unto the wife as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers be not hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7

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